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Whole-School Restorative
Approach to Building
Healthy Relationships

Equipping every school with the knowledge and tools they need to strengthen school climate, safety, and connectedness.

Multi-Tiered System of Support (MTSS)

Students who build healthy relationship skills have: increased academic achievement, improved mental health and wellness.

We provide a multi-tiered system of support (MTSS) framework to ensure students get what they need, academically, behaviorally, socially, and emotionally. Our whole-school restorative approach builds a healthy school climate by developing positive relationships, fostering empathy, mutual respect and accountability. If things go wrong, the whole-school community is equipped to address needs and repair relationships.

Tier 1
Whole School

Administrators, Educators, Staff & Parents

Cultivate a shared language to improve the identification of unhealthy relationship behavior and allow adults to approach students in a restorative way to offer a warm handoff to a classroom or mental health support.

Build Capacity

Tier 2

Advisory, Counseling, Career & Health Teachers

Research-backed Core Curriculum to improve student Self-Awareness, Self-Management, Social Awareness, Relationship Skills, Responsible Decision-Making.

Meaningful, Engaging, Responsible and Equitable Education

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Tier 3
Mental Health

Licensed Clinicians, Para-Professionals &  Behavioral Health Liaisons

Small group intervention to build capacity to identify, intervene, and respond to unhealthy relationship behavior through a restorative approach.

Valued, respected and connected to school

Our Research

Proven to increase healthy abuse-free relationship skills


Increase in identifying unhealthy relationship behavior


Retention rate of healthy relationship skills


Increase in students asking for help

Students who use what is lOVE tools show improvement in these key areas;

  • Social-emotional strengths
  • Positive classroom climate
  • Communication skills

Independent Program Evaluation

The Gevirtz Graduate School of Education, a graduate school at the University of California, Santa Barbara which specializes in the field of education and counseling, clinical and school psychology conducted an independent evaluation of what is lOVE. Their multi-disciplinary research team included scholars and practitioners specializing in the evaluation of school and community-based programs for youth.

University California, Santa Barbara researcher, Dr. Lauren Reed, led this independent evaluation at four high schools near Santa Barbara, California. Pre- and post-program surveys were administered to students who participated in the what is lOVE curriculum and to a control group at the same schools who were waitlisted.

See what others have to say

This curriculum changed my classroom culture and created an opportunity for my students to connect in a caring way.

Veronica GinesSanta Barbara Unified School District Health Teacher

This approach to building healthy relationship skills works and is highly effective!

Marian ShapiroMSW

what is lOVE is an essential partner of our multi-tiered system of support to create an inclusive, responsive, and data-informed system that ensures growth, uplifts strengths, and eliminates barriers for our students.

ShaKenya EdisonMS Educational Counseling, Assistant Superintendent Santa Barbara Unified

What is relationship abuse?

Emotional, physical, digital, or sexual abuse by a person to harm, threaten, intimidate, or control a dating partner. Most abuse starts out with small signals like jealousy, excessive texting, or insisting on spending every moment together. Many teens mistake this for love. 

What are the consequences?

Our first love experiences are what we take with us into adulthood. Unhealthy, abusive, or violent relationships can have severe consequences on a developing teen. Youth who experience relationship abuse are more likely to:


Experience higher rates of depression and anxiety


Engage in unhealthy behaviors, like using drugs and alcohol


Exhibit antisocial behaviors, like lying, theft, bullying or hitting


Engage in risky sexual behavior


Attempt suicide


Decrease in grades and school attendance

All of which results in a compromised school climate and safety

100% of your purchase will help bring life-saving relationship education to every young person.

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